Be kind

I know we don’t live in a sugar crusted world and life is tough.

The internet is a wonderful gift and gives us access tto so much knowledge and connection with family and friends and even enemies all over the world at anytime of the day or night.

However sometimes I feel like we should switch it all off for a few moments and reflect on our day and how its gone, who we saw and interacted with. Was it all positive or did we argue or feel frustrated at any time. Did we consider how our actions would affect other peoples lives? In the old days when we had to wait to see a person make an effort to phone them or write them a note I believe we gave our selves more time to plan what we were going to say or do. Therefore I think we were more kind to ourselves and others and our feelings were more considered and possibly had more meaning.


Yes I have had a not so great day and I have witnessed the rush to blame and general poor consideration of actions and incredibly a complete lack of insight into the true meaning of working in a team.



It really is good to start introducing that little tooth brush as soon as any teeth appear.

It then becomes part of yours and babies daily routine.

You can use any milk tooth paste just a spot though and don’t expect them to spit out. There are many great products around but the one below can be held by baby  and is less likely to cause choking it they inadvertently try to push it down the back of their mouth. It is important for you to help with brushing until your children are really competent.

Bring twice daily brushing in and also when you have a check up with the dentist ask if baby can go too, it is then less likely for babies to get scared in the future.


Chewable Toothbrush and Teether

something I found!

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Where Do Babies Come From?

Nov 1, 2016


Where did you come from, baby dear?
Out of the everywhere into here.

Where did you get your eyes so blue?
Out of the sky as I came through.

What makes the light in them sparkle and spin?
Some of the starry spikes left in.

Where did you get that little tear?
I found it waiting when I got here.

What makes your forehead so smooth and high?
A soft hand stroked it as I went by.

What makes your cheek like a warm white rose?
I saw something better than anyone knows.

Whence that three-cornered smile of bliss?
Three angels gave me at once a kiss.

Where did you get this pearly ear?
God spoke, and it came out to hear.

Where did you get those arms and hands?
Love made itself into hooks and bands.

Feet, whence did you come, you darling things?
From the same box as the cherubs’ wings.

How did they all just come to be you?
God thought about me, and so I grew.

But how did you come to us, you dear?
God thought about you, and so I am here

~George MacDonald


This is lovely to sit and read aloud to your baby, never to young to read to! When you talk to your baby at what ever age it helps their brains develop, so chat away.

What am I doing?

My daughter gave me a subscription to wordpress last Christmas but I must admit I have floundered!

A year on I am determined to write regularly on this blog.

I am a wife, mother and health visitor.

I want to talk about my profession, how passionate I am about supporting families and their children. My brain is full of knowledge that I have gained over the last twenty years and I want to share it.

What I want people to know though is that all mums have the gift of instinct which is usually the best source of what’s best for their babies. There are times though when we don’t trust our instinct or it may be clouded by life’s events.

So please dip in regularly if you have babies and children.

I am only learning to blog it’s a little like having a new born baby and being completely confused as to how to do everything, like parenting I imagine there will be good and bad days.

Health Visiting

I have been practising now for the best part of fourteen years, before that I was a midwife. For me the professions are intertwined like mistletoe and Christmas. You don’t have to be a midwife to become a health visitor but we are in my opinion professional sisters. At this present time this part of the NHS family is struggling through a dark period. We hear daily how nationally the NHS is short of midwives and trusts are struggling to find the money to employ enough of them. The press have reported a small amount about the cuts to the health visiting service but this sadly does not achieve the recognition that the midwives do. We are and always will be a service that is accepted but not adored.

Some see us as bossy and interfering. I would prefer people to see us as the public health nurses we are. Our aim is to provide families with information that is evidenced based and relevant to their health needs. Few will be aware that Florence Nightingale had a part in our birth she recognised the importance of tackling issues that may affect health before the population became ill,

“In 1892 she recognised the importance of health visiting in rural, as well as urban, areas, pointing out the sad fact that “there are more people to pick us up when we fall, than to enable us to stand upon our feet.””

I doubt though few will comprehend that we are  now a dying breed,  (and once again there will be less of us enabling people to stand upon their feet ) our service is being slashed in front of our eyes  many of our number have in the past few months felt the need to move to pastures new because the local councils are wanting to pay less and less for our services and are cutting staff to the bare minimum. There are no students being trained in our county. We are not being used to our full potential, we are all nurse prescribers and can prescribe from a limited formulary, we could be used more wisely to prevent families turning to A&E. We can give advice about minor illness and injury and if our skills were utilised outside of normal surgery hours; particularly early evening this may reduce the number of attendances to emergency departments.

2019 will mark a century of statutory qualifications for health visitors who were employed to insure the health of the nation improved and the country would have healthy citizens to work and produce economic growth and prosperity. Our country may be a healthier place to live in the 21st century but we continue to have health needs and if no one is searching for them and trying to prevent ill-health occurring our GP’s and hospital’s burdens will be heavier our industries will suffer and ultimately our country. For a country to know where it is going to we need to continue to learn from the past.


Baby’s love water, you may not believe this at first but remember they/ we lived in fluid for 9 months.

When bathing baby never leave them. Try not to be tempted to use bath supports, firm hands under the shoulder light grip around the top of the arm you can reach and the other hand free to wash little one. Make the water deep so baby can have a relaxing dip, none us like lying in water that barely covers our legs!


Swimming, babies can go whenever parents feel ready to brave it, see page 13 of your guide to immunisations that the health visitor should give you. It is not true that babies need to have had their immunisations. Make sure the pool is baby friendly, that is warm, and be prepared to only spend a short time in the water initially, pools are noisy places. Go with partner or friend!

do courses nationally as do many local pools and clubs or just go and have fun at first. Buy swim nappies though!




lullabye trust safe sleep week coming up next month.

spring is not far away and Easter holidays! Remember if you are going away do consider all the safe sleep habits you have adopted at home should continue when you are way too.